Pre and Post in the same sentence?! Yessssss
Take heart city singles - society is changing. Gone are the days when marriage and kids were considered the epitome of relationship success. As much as we would like to think we can meet someone whose life metamorphoses parallels ours it's just not reasonable. I am not the person I was five years ago, and five years from now I will not be me today.
People want more, from everything. Like a pillow at bedtime, we've squashed our lives into the shape we desire. We can choose where to live, eat, play, we choose what we wear, who we surround ourselves with. Give us a pillow that refuses to squash itself into the shape we want? Why bother. We'll just get one that does. And why would we, (as pillows - stay with me now) choose to conform to another heads desires? No way. We get what we want when we want - the proof is all around us in our carefully constructed little lives.
The moral of this story is we're all just walking around like tired zombies without pillows.
*Pause to breathe through the metaphors...*
Look beyond the rigid pillow fortress you have constructed for yourself. Recognise that if you want a partner you may have to compromise on some of the things that don't really matter. For men, that is often physical appearance. For women, it's quite often shoes? A lot of women will not date a man wearing bad shoes. Anyway, I'll leave it up to you, but here is my list of what you need. The rest doesn't really matter.
- Someone who loves you
- Someone who appreciates the importance of your family and friends
- Someone you can trust
- Someone who is kind to you
- Someone who makes you feel good about yourself
- Someone who is 'on your side'
- Someone who makes an effort for you
- Someone you can talk to
- Someone who makes you laugh
- Someone who can take care of themselves, so you can take care of each other.
Happy V-Day for tomorrow - go kiss a stranger X
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